Monday, March 7, 2011
Tell me lies..Tell me sweet little Lies
This is just a little heart-break music...enjoy!
So here we are again… a quiet evening, well not so quiet..as there is Wrestling on TV in the background (not my personal choice, but its HIS one show he’s allowed to watch one day a week..and I get to do whatever I need to do without distraction for a few hours!) So now I get to blog…about what you ask?? Well I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships/singles/boys/men..in general lately. And because I am such a true believer in the book “He’s just Not that Into You”, I wanted to divulge into this a little bit…so watch out…I can get pretty passionate..I might spit, I’m sorry in advance.
Where to begin…Well lets start a list of “He Just not into you If’s..”
He’s Just NOT that Into You If:
· Your still in the “friends” zone…after 2 years…
· He doesn’t want to be intimate/sexual/kinky with you.
· He’s married
· He’s “Separated”
· He “is pretty sure we’re gonna get a divorce..” for the last 3 years.
· He has a girlfriend
· ..They live together
· He can’t “commit”
· He hasn’t told anyone about you..
· He isn’t asking you out, no matter how many “Signs” YOU think he’s given
· He hasn’t called
Well I could literally go on and on and on and perhaps..ON with more ways that men are blatantly telling you he’s NOT interested. It makes me VERY angry how women are about men. Always thinking they are so complicated…when the reality? WE are the complicated ones. We are always making excuses for them…from why they haven’t called- oh he must be out of town…! WHERE!??? AFGHANISTAN??? To even why he can’t supposedly “commit”. Oh he has commitment issues…or he was hurt bad in the past. I call BULLSHIT. He just wont commit to YOU! And if he was hurt bad in the past? Then that’s HIS daemons…and why the hell would you want to be with someone who has THAT much baggage in the first place???? As my sister once put it “He is damaged goods..and I am not a repair-man”.
Onto my next point. Married men. Enough said..right? Wrong. I won’t divulge much into my own past, but I will say this: UNLESS HE IS CERTIFIABLY D-I-V-O-R-C-E-D..HE AIN’T GOING ANYWHERE. That being said, I am sure there are a small 1% of couples who have indeed met this way, which is fine..and dandy..for them! But I can assure you, nothing good will come of this. No matter how many times he lays on that thick blanket of “I love you mores..” and “we are getting a divorce” (for the 100th time) they aren’t going anywhere, and your going to end up alone with your tears and a bucket of ice cream. Don’t you think that sleazy men like that know how to play the game??? C’mon…get your damn head outta the clouds. And even if he, dare I say, finally gets that divorce and you end up together..how could you ever trust him KNOWING that’s at one time YOU were “the other women” and he most likely has another one working it on the side. At this point, I’d say its best to take off the rose colored sunglasses…
Another of the points I am fond of hearing about is that "he won't have sex with me". Ahh that old chestnut. Question: WHAT MAN DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE SEX? I mean really..riddle me that!!!! Most likely he doesn't want to tell you the real truth, in that he isn't attracted to you in that way..or your a bad lay. Either way, STOP creating excuses for him.."he doesn't like sex.."..He's tired all the time"..or whatever sweet little lie your telling yourself at the time. When the raw deal is" HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
In conclusion my loves…men are NOT complicated. They are just to cowardly to say it out loud, but listen to me when I say, actions speak LOUDER than words, especially theirs. Stop fantasizing about him coming onto you and confessing his undying love to you, because he most likely won’t by now. A quote i really love: "If a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit..then he genuinely doesn't give a shit!" Move on for the amazing bachelor who ACTUALLY wants to take time loving on you…I know I didJ
On a completely unrelated topic…I apologize about not blogging for a while, but I’ve been outta that game for a bit. ALSO I have officially decided My blog will now have a MAIN FOCUS, which will be Love and Relationships..and I was thinking about doing just a once a week blog..focusing on what i learned about love during the week..good or bad!. I will keep you posted!