Monday, March 28, 2011

We accept the Love we THINK we deserve...

The song is by the most amazing singer, Adele. She doesn't have a real video for this, but the song is amazing..enjoy!

Ah the ol Monday night ritual. CRAP wrestling is on and I am free to do what I need to do...tonight features laundry and blogging...I truly live a life of glamour. SO.."we accept the love we think we deserve"..what does it all mean?? is this true?..lets find out my inquisitive reader.

My knight in shinning armour arrived to pick me up after work, and after random "how was your day" small talk, he told me about a friend of his who has gone back to his ex for the THIRD time now. Now, its not my place to tell their story, but I will tell you it involves a lot of emotional abuse and ridiculous drama...but yet he continues to go back. And as my main man told him.."If you want that kind of pain, how bout we go out back, I take your wallet and kick you in the balls?" 

This really got me thinking..people are funny about love. Look around. Look at your friends, co-workers, random strangers...that guy creeping in your window. The love they have in their life is there because THAT'S what they feel they deserve. And I'm not just talking about romantic relationships, its also the type of friends you keep and they way you let your family/strangers treat you.  Lets take a battered gf/wife as a fine example, Most likely (unfortunately) she has VERY low self esteem (the constant emotional/mental abuse doesn't help) and that type of man is all she feels she deserves, why do you think she keeps making excuses for him?? "oh hes stressed at work"..yet his stress is all over YOUR face. Also, why do men/women STAY with people who are cheaters?? Lets all take our Rosie sunglasses off for a moment and speak the truth. You know. You always just don't WANT to believe that this person could do this. Stop lying to yourself...grow a set and leave that douchbaggery. Go strut yourself with someone who would rather kiss your face rather than break it.

You REALLY accept the love you honestly think you deserve. If you think your unworthy of love, your gonna keep shitty company. If you really think your worth something (WHICH you are!) you will find great love..and forget the rest of the scumbags. People will talk all over you if you let them, because that's ALL you think your worth. Remember kids "Don't complain about things you can change". And no, it won't happen over night. You won't wake up one morning and think...."god damn i'm friggen amazing and this guy has punched his last woman". It will take time..and effort, trust me.

On this last can take years before you realize your true worth. And ladies, NO man is worth your tears...and the ones who are, won't make you cry. Anyways, I hope you enjoyed this one...i enjoyed writing it.

- Love, Laura xoxox

Question: Do you KNOW what your worth?? Have you ever let someone make you feel less than that?

Sunday, March 27, 2011 "Desserts" Spelled backwards..?

WHY HELLO!!!!!!!! Obviously I needed CAPS on to emphasize my excitement! My greatest apologies for NOT blogging in SO long. Work has been a nuthouse and I've been tired and uninspired, and didn't want to come up with a half assed blog every week...about whatever I was feeling passionate about that week.  This week I am feeling passionate about STRESS. Although i may be mistaking passion for murderous rage...they are similar aren't they?

I won't divulge into exactly WHAT is making me stressed, because frankly, I don't feel like being negative like that, but its concerning me that I am letting little work things get to me in such a huge way! Considering people who know me, know I am not a stress-case. I'm pretty calm and laid back usually, but these days I'm tense and irritated. Which leads me to my point: Why do we let little things bother us? Especially at the end of the day, does it really matter? The world won't end if I don't finish that one info package or call that one grocery manager.

I have always worked hard at making sure work didn't become my life. All I thought about even when I'm not at work...its bad enough I think about work AT WORK! I'm quite private at work, regarding my personal life...and at home, I don't really like talking about work...but somehow, the two are being mixed up...mixed up like my dad's plate at thanksgiving.  Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the people I work with. I've never worked at someplace where everyone is so close, and every single day, since I started (a year ago) there has been laughter...and not just "hehe-haha" laughing...its more of a CACKLE! HOWEVER...these days, the cackling hens aren't doing it for stress relievers anyways.

SO, WHAT in fact do I do to relieve this work-like stress?? I've been trying a few things lately...some good, others not so good. Working out kind of helps...the sweat burning my eyes and gasping for breath helps take away the thought of work, but only for a few minutes. Usually sleep helps, but that's few and far between these i toss and turn THINKING about how much work i have to do the next day. A recent ritual I've brought back into play seems to be working the best..: Changing out of work clothes as soon as I get in the house..and possibly showering. Now, I'm not showering b/c I had an exhausting bus ride home, but b/c it seems to LITERALLY wash my negativity and BULLSHIT form the day. I tested this theory out a few times last week and it seemed to really relax me! I work with a few co-workers who are a bit high strung and anxious all the time, and I've always been one to pick up peoples energies so a shower seems to be the answer, as I stated washes away the day...ahhhhhh.

Anyways...whatever stress relief you have, use it..and often! Theres a lot of scientific evidence proving that stress is one of the leading causes of cancer...ekk! Thus the reason I will take drastic measures to be calm. At the end of the day, most things are not THAT big of a deal. The world isn't going to end b/c you didn't do something. You must learn to life a stress free life...b/c nobody likes seeing their co-worker go into work with a saw'd-off shot gun "admin assistant" style and taking everyone out...including the purolator guy....that is all.

Love, Laura xoxoxox

QUESTION: What are your favorite "home made" stress-relievers that work for you?

Monday, March 7, 2011

Tell me lies..Tell me sweet little Lies

This is just a little heart-break music...enjoy!

So here we are again… a quiet evening, well not so there is Wrestling on TV in the background (not my personal choice, but its HIS one show he’s allowed to watch one day a week..and I get to do whatever I need to do without distraction for a few hours!) So now I get to blog…about what you ask?? Well I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships/singles/boys/ general lately. And because I am such a true believer in the book “He’s just Not that Into You”, I wanted to divulge into this a little bit…so watch out…I can get pretty passionate..I might spit, I’m sorry in advance.

Where to begin…Well lets start a list of “He Just not into you If’s..”

He’s Just NOT that Into You If:
·         Your still in the “friends” zone…after 2 years…
·         He doesn’t want to be intimate/sexual/kinky with you.
·         He’s married
·         He’s “Separated”
·         He “is pretty sure we’re gonna get a divorce..” for the last 3 years.
·         He has a girlfriend
·         ..They live together
·         He can’t “commit”
·         He hasn’t told anyone about you..
·         He isn’t asking you out, no matter how many “Signs” YOU think he’s given
·         He hasn’t called

Well I could literally go on and on and on and perhaps..ON with more ways that men are blatantly telling you he’s NOT interested. It makes me VERY angry how women are about men. Always thinking they are so complicated…when the reality? WE are the complicated ones. We are always making excuses for them…from why they haven’t called- oh he must be out of town…! WHERE!??? AFGHANISTAN???  To even why he can’t supposedly “commit”. Oh he has commitment issues…or he was hurt bad in the past. I call BULLSHIT. He just wont commit to YOU! And if he was hurt bad in the past? Then that’s HIS daemons…and why the hell would you want to be with someone who has THAT much baggage in the first place???? As my sister once put it “He is damaged goods..and I am not a repair-man”.

Onto my next point. Married men. Enough said..right? Wrong. I won’t divulge much into my own past, but I will say this: UNLESS HE IS CERTIFIABLY D-I-V-O-R-C-E-D..HE AIN’T GOING ANYWHERE. That being said, I am sure there are a small 1% of couples who have indeed met this way, which is fine..and dandy..for them! But I can assure you, nothing good will come of this. No matter how many times he lays on that thick blanket of “I love you mores..” and “we are getting a divorce” (for the 100th time) they aren’t going anywhere, and your going to end up alone with your tears and a bucket of ice cream. Don’t you think that sleazy men like that know how to play the game??? C’mon…get your damn head outta the clouds. And even if he, dare I say, finally gets that divorce and you end up could you ever trust him KNOWING that’s at one time YOU were “the other women” and he most likely has another one working it on the side. At this point, I’d say its best to take off the rose colored sunglasses…

Another of the points I am fond of hearing about is that "he won't have sex with me". Ahh that old chestnut. Question: WHAT MAN DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE SEX? I mean really..riddle me that!!!! Most likely he doesn't want to tell you the real truth, in that he isn't attracted to you in that way..or your a bad lay. Either way, STOP creating excuses for him.."he doesn't like sex.."..He's tired all the time"..or whatever sweet little lie your telling yourself at the time. When the raw deal is" HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. 

In conclusion my loves…men are NOT complicated. They are just to cowardly to say it out loud, but listen to me when I say, actions speak LOUDER than words, especially theirs. Stop fantasizing about him coming onto you and confessing his undying love to you, because he most likely won’t by now. A quote i really love: "If a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit..then he genuinely doesn't give a shit!"  Move on for the amazing bachelor who ACTUALLY wants to take time loving on you…I know I didJ
On a completely unrelated topic…I apologize about not blogging for a while, but I’ve been outta that game for a bit. ALSO I have officially decided My blog will now have a MAIN FOCUS, which will be Love and Relationships..and I was thinking about doing just a once a week blog..focusing on what i learned about love during the week..good or bad!. I will keep you posted!

-Love, Laura